A 5 year old boy and 3 almost 4 year old girl, who happen to be brother and sister, play together every single moment. Despite the fact that there seems to be a zillion other kids to choose from at the day care, for some reason these two would rather play with the same one they play with every waking moment of their little lives so far. And why is this? As I watched them, the first couple of days I was baffled. The big brother seemed to always be able to manipulate his younger sister to do whatever he wanted even be upset when he was sent to time out or leave one of her friends to simply hold a bucket for him. That’s when I realized it’s because he met her needs. He at five years of age has realized that his sister has needs like being protected and needing to feel “special” like a princess so if he makes sure he fills her needs she doesn’t care what he wants to do. Therefore, we end up with games where the ninja power ranger is killing the tornado and the princess comes along to help… sounds kinda weird sometimes but everyone’s needs are met.
We all have needs granted many times we don’t admit them. The book Truefaced (the book I’m currently reading and would strongly recommend) breaks it down something similar to the fact that we all have needs that need to be met, but admitting that we have a need that someone else has to fill reveals our vulnerability and weakness in our society. So instead of admitting that we need something we wear a mask and put up a fake front that says I don’t need you, I don’t need your love, I don’t need this or that, and so on. Let’s be honest, we ALL do it. And if you say you haven’t ever done that, maybe you should take off your mask for a little while…True Fact: This in a large part pertains to trusting God to fulfill our needs but it also relates to our needs regarding each other.
àAt school I’m use to getting hugs basically 24/7. I would walk to the hallway and receive hugs from the girls without even a second thought. And the days or moments when I just needed a hug, I simply walked to an open door, said I need a hug, and immediately a hug bigger than expected would embrace me. I will admit it I need to receive affection. No not in a boyfriend girlfriend all can’t keep our hands of sort of way but in a, I need all five languages in some dosage like everyone else. Since being home I’ve been extremely hug deprived considering I don’t live with zillions of people. I admitted it, talked with Jesus, and then spontaneously moved to the baby room at work where multiple babies need is to simply be held and cuddled and hugged. The lord takes care of our needs once we take of our mask, become vulnerable, and allow God’s grace to begin to work.
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